The Eccentric Sheep Musings: The Life of a Loud Mouth
When you first meet me, I am probably going to be practically a mute I’ll be so quiet. However, if you have been given the arduous task of being in my life long term, I eventually switch from super quiet to a loud mouth. I’m a rebellious wretched little loud mouth. You have been warned.
Being a loud mouth is important for what I do. I talk very openly about difficult topics. Self harm, depression, suicide, anxiety, addiction, pornography, eating disorders…these are topics I purposely talk very openly about because I want people to start being able to talk about them for the sake of those suffering. The world is not that apt to talk about them still.
Being a loud mouth has its obvious setbacks. There are probably more disadvantages than advantages. When there is more of God and less of you being a loud mouth can be used for his glory. When the levels get messed up and there’s more of you and less of him, that’s when you get in trouble.
James 3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
I like to set these verses into making friendships to make them make sense. When you are out in public, there are certain things you can say to spark someone’s interest in you and create a friendship. Friendships and connections can lead you many places depending on what powers and abilities they have. You can also say certain things that turn people off that close doors to more than you can imagine. What you say steers your entire life. What you say in a job interview can determine if you get the job. What you say on stage determines what impact you will have on someone. Life itself is a stage, and you are speaking from it.
9 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. 11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
A loud angry mouth is a fire. It sparks uncontrollable fires. I have many memories of when my loud mouth has gotten me into trouble. Many memories of connections severed or severely damaged because of it. Many memories of going back and apologizing. It is very true, the tongue is very difficult to rein in and get under control.
What do you do? First of all, if you are at a point you have not developed a habit of cussing, DO NOT START CUSSING. Keep your mouth clean of profanities. The less you do, the easier it is to stay away. If you have not developed a habit of crude inappropriate jokes, DO NOT START DOING IT. If you never start, you won’t have to try and stop later. Perhaps speaking your mind isn’t always the answer. I am saddened to say that, but if we lose God and show too much of ourselves in our ramblings, maybe remaining silent for a while is the answer. We do not have as many confidants as we think. The numbers of those you can truly trust with your innermost thoughts is very small at times. Perhaps that number is best kept small.
Words in anger are so difficult to contain once they are let lose. The door is large and heavy, and once it is opened the task of closing it again can take some time. If your hand is on the door knob, stop for a moment and think before it is too late.
Maybe you won’t find yourself flooded with memories of mistakes like me if you are able to conquer your tongue.