To be angry is to be human. It’s not a pleasant emotion to entertain or exhibit. It comes about when someone presses our wrong buttons over and over again. Some people are more easily provoked than others but everyone gets angry at a point. The difference is some people are better able to control their anger than others.

There are some people who get real nasty when they get annoyed. They make no effort to curb the urges with the excuse that that’s how they have always been. When someone begins to irritate them, they give a disclaimer; in my dialect they say, “My anger is not pretty’.

Of course there’s no pretty element to showing anger. The Bible even says that the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God (James 1:20). Anger brings out the worst in us so there’s no way it will look pretty to an onlooker.

Everyone knows what triggers that boiling rage in him/her and we all do our best not to reach that point. It’s not wrong to be angry; how you display it is what matters. It’s only a temporary expression to an incident so we should keep that in mind when responding to such occurrences. Think about what happens after the outburst. Would you have damaged a significant relationship because someone said something out of line or did something reckless? Or would you have corrected him/her in a loving manner and by so doing, fostered a deeper bond?

Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil (Ephesians 4: 26). Being labeled as a perpetual angry person or someone with a nasty temper is not something to be proud of.

Let go of grudges and repay evil with good. Just as a bad deed has ripple effects, so does a good deed. Do you want to be the reason someone exacts revenge on another or the inspiration for someone lending forgiveness to others?

The choice is yours.

© Josephine Amoako 2018

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