It’s not always the mushy happy-feely thing you see in the movies and hear about in songs.
In fact, it’s quite scary and dangerous.
Love is dangerous.
If you know me, you know that I absolutely adore C.S. Lewis.
And if you ever wondered why, just listen to this quote from him.
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal.”
How extremely true that is….
If you’ve ever loved (or thought you loved) someone, you probably know, all too well, that feeling of your heart being wrung or even broken.
It’s a plain and hurtful fact of life.
Eventually, we will love and give pieces of our heart to people or even things that will sooner or later leave, also leaving with that part of our heart.
And when you lose pieces of your heart, it tends to hurt.
This coming from a person who for years of her life, felt like she was losing every person she cared about.
Death. Moving away. Growing apart.
I felt like I was in a season of getting close to someone only to have them ripped away just when I got comfortable.
And it was horrible.
Many of you have probably been there.
And many of you probably took the same approach to fixing this problem that I tried to.
Putting up walls.
Vowing to never let anyone else in.
Promising to never get close again.
It seems to be the perfect solution.
If you don’t let anyone in and don’t love anyone, then you can’t possibly get hurt.
Well…. Not really.
Look at the next part of the quote.
“Wrap it [your heart] carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”
Sounds almost frozen to me…..
Speaking of frozen, (cheesy segway, I know…), I saw that movie this weekend.
And it kinda wrecked me.
Actually, forget kinda.
Never has a movie made me want to bawl so much.
I don’t wanna ruin the movie for you, but here’s the gist of it.
An ice queen has the power to turn anything she touches into ice.
As she gets older, this power grows stronger. So to keep from hurting those around her, she stays secluded for years in her room.
After her coronation as queen, she gets mad and freezes the whole land.
Scared for her life, she runs off and hides in an ice castle on a mountain away from all people.
Her sister, who loves her deeply even though she’s been shut out all her life, runs to find her.
She goes on a journey that risks her life… Just to find this sister who has treated her rudely as long as she can remember.
When she finds her, her sister loses her temper and accidentally strikes her with ice – freezing her heart…. A condition they say can only be treated with a true act of love.
Not a kiss from a guy… That’s not what saved her life.
It was when she stepped in to save her sister from death that she was un-frozen.
And it’s then that her sister realizes that the key to unfreezing everything is love.
Love melts the ice.
And then they live happily ever after….. And all that junk!
But the part of the movie that caught me the most is close to the end when a walking-talking snowman stands by the fire trying to help unfreeze the girl’s heart.
She warns him that standing by the fire to help her is sure to end in his melting.
And he then says the line that cuts me to the core….
“Some people are worth melting for.”
Even reading that makes me want to tear up.
Because it suddenly makes sense.
Yes. Love is dangerous.
Loving someone is sure to hurt. And it’s gonna make you melt sometimes.
But as the wise snowman said, some people are worth melting for.
I’m not telling you that the guy you just met last night, or last week, or last month, is worth melting for.
Or even your best friend.
Not even your family.
I mean, they’re all worthy candidates.
But the only one I know worth truly melting for is the One who melted for me.
I know I can let Him hold all the pieces of my heart… Because He’ll never leave or run away with them.
And letting Him in is the best kind of feeling. It’s the feeling of being dangerous, yet somehow still being safe. It’s the feeling of risking it all, yet knowing you won’t lose anything of real value.
Yes. Maybe shutting everyone out is the safer way to go.
But in doing that, we become frozen.
We become hard-hearted and cold.
We build up walls that are seemingly impossible to get through.
But, just like in the movie, it can be undone by a true act of love.
Ladies — a true act of love isn’t a kiss. Ultimately, everything we do here with the label of love on it, has tainted motives.
The only true act of love I know is the perfect and blameless Savior dying on a cross to save the messed up sinners of the world.
And that love — that perfect and beautiful love — is the only one that can break through the walls we build up.
When we learn to trust Him and His promise that He’ll never leave us, we learn to love again.
I’ve always said that we’ll never know how to love others until we know how Christ loves us.
And I still stand by that.
Loving Christ and believing He loves you is the key to loving others.
Nothing else I know of will unfreeze the frozen heart.
A true love.
Yes. It will hurt at times.
Yes, you will be broken sometimes.
And yes, it’s still dangerous to place your heart into the hands of Someone you can’t physically see.
You may have been hurt and left alone so many times that you don’t feel you can open up and let love in again.
I’ve been there.
And it’s only through the true love of Jesus that I was able to let the walls fall and allow people back in.
I know that they will fail me.
I know that it will hurt.
But ya know?
Some people really are worth melting for.
The love Jesus had for us ultimately led Him to His cruel death on a Roman cross.
And while I’m sure I’ll never have to face it the way He did, I want the love that would send me to my death on a cross for the ones I love.
Even when it’s not comfortable or easy.
Even when they don’t reciprocate it back to me.
Even when it’s dangerous.
Even when it asks me to melt.
“Safe? Who said anything about safe? ‘Course He isn’t safe. But He’s good. He’s the King, I tell you.” -C. S. Lewis